Comfy On My Ones

2nd Dec 16

4 Comments

Getting Familiar With Mel.

I’m trying to be more comfortable with myself, by myself. I’ve noticed that when I go to industry events and I’m around my friends or people who I already know, I flourish in the best ways possible showing the best most fun parts of my personality. But, when I’m by myself, I literally sit in the corner and wait for an appropriate time to leave. Sometimes I leave without even seeking out the person who invited me which is actually shocking behaviour. It’s crazy that with such a outgoing personality I still get a little bit shy and it’s probably hindering my growth career wise.

I’m trying to figure out a way where I can be bold during networking and industry events to the point where I can happily go up to someone who I’ve been social media stalking (in a good way. not a creepy way!) and say ‘Hi’ and not sheepishly shy away from intimidating group settings. I feel like making connection is the step before making money/success. The amount of times I’ve referred friends to people/companies or they’ve referred me is testament enough for me to know that it’s the best way to ahead. It’s nearly always not about what you know but who you know.

They say your network is your net worth and I feel like I seriously need to make a bigger and bolder effort to ensure that my network is a big as I want my net worth to be. I think we all have a little fear of rejection (a big fear for me) but If you don’t take the plunge, you don’t really know where things could get you. I think for anything, this should be seen a mandatory to any freelancer. The simple greeting someone new and letting them know of what you do, could mean that could be well on your way to your next opportunity. Hopefully I can put this into action sooner rather than later!

Jumper dress – Zara

Cardigan – Zara

(Both seem to be sold out! So Sorry)

Boots – Christian Louboutin

Bag – Mango

  • joyfuljoyous

    OMG! Read this and thought this is me. With my friends around, I can easily be social butterfly. Without them, I become and anxious mess.

    • melswardrobe

      Honestly! I’m the exact same!

  • Anaïs

    I can definitely relate, it took me some time to get out of my comfort zone and I’ve been running ever since ! Much luck to you. x

    • melswardrobe

      Ah I’m so happy for you! Upwards from here!xx